VERBAL ABUSE

 

 

I have noticed a very unhealthy trend in verbal abuse, which is rapidly escalating. My heart is heavy because of the destructive effects that this is having on our nation and the world. Verbal abuse is vicious, malicious, vehement speech—both written and oral. Most verbal abuse is based upon lies, distortions and exaggerations. Verbal abuse often targets religion, race, human sexuality or politics.

However the source of verbal abuse is none of the above. In John 3:19 Jesus said, “People love darkness rather than light because their deeds are evil.” The Apostle Paul told us that we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against the evil one. Our conflict is with spiritual wickedness. There is but one enemy—Satan, the thief who has come to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10). So we see that people are not our real enemy, they are merely pawns in the hand of the enemy; and thus they need our prayers and compassion.

According to the dictionary any of the following actions can be considered forms of verbal abuse:

▪ Accusing/blaming

▪ Name-calling

▪ Judging/criticizing

▪ Abusive anger

▪ Discounting or minimizing the victim’s experiences

Lies, distortions, and corruption are everywhere. All of this is an expression of verbal abuse. Our Words can either minister life or death. “The tongue is a fire, the very world of iniquity; the tongue is set among our members as that which defiles the entire body, and sets on fire the course of our life, and is set on fire by hell. . . With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way” (James 3:6, 9-10). Ultimately one form of verbal abuse is no worse than another; it is all devilish, and thus deadly. For example, some pride themselves in not being verbally abusive regarding race or religion, but their spousal abuse is hideous! May God protect us from every form of verbal abuse, and cause us to minister life—His Life—one to another!

After much prayer, I am compelled to offer these suggestions regarding verbal abuse. As those who are representatives of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ (the One who is pure and lovely, good and true), I urge you to please prayerfully consider what you are saying and posting on public media. Many political posts have become divisive and destructive—stirring up division and strife. Some posts are even becoming vulgar and inflammatory. These kinds of posts are very unhealthy for you, our nation, and our world. Our Lord, as the prince of peace, desires that we be His instruments of peace, harmony and unity. As those who are in Christ, we should be peacemakers, not troublemakers. “Do everything possible on your part to live in peace with everybody” (Romans 12:18 GNT).

I understand how many of you feel. I too have strong feelings about what is going on in our country and the world, but as Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us there is a time and place for everything. We must respond God’s way, which is always the best! So, like the mother of our Lord, we should prayerfully ponder these things in our hearts, and cast our cares upon the Lord. Then He will take care of it in His time and in His way.

Therefore, I lovingly urge you to avoid reading or listening to verbally abusive comments, much less sharing them with others. God describes such practices as gossip or slander and warns against it. Furthermore, I suggest that you remove any post that is vulgar, divisive or has not been proven true. Just because something is true does not mean it should be shared. Always speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). And for your sake and those in your circle of influence, please avoid the vehement rhetoric that is plaguing the Earth today. 

With love and prayers from a fellow resident of planet Earth — Dr. Lewis Gregory, Source Ministries International 1/18/18

Dr. Lewis Gregory Source Ministries © 2018

 

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